Despite my strong non-violence stance, there were times this summer I wanted to clock Pharrel upside his happy little head, with a swift and efficient backhand. Bam.
Yes, because he had the nerve to sing a song about being happy simply when I wasn’t.
It’s no secret I had a rough summer. Without rehashing all the shitty shits which went down, let’s just say there were entire weeks where I wanted to burrow a hole into the couch, climb in and never come out; well…except to eat, because duh, food. And cheese. Of course cheese gets its own sentence fragment; I suspect no one is shocked by this.
To be perfectly honest, I’m still struggling a bit to find my footing. Most of the things which set my world a kilter many months ago are still present in my life and will be for some time. The bottom line is life can be tough and damned if it doesn’t always play fair, which is why I’ve been working extra hard on ♫ Bringing Happy Back ♫ Them other boys don’t know how to act ♫ because at the end of the day, I’d rather shake my hips to J.T. or even Pharrell than be a couch curmudgeon; not that I wouldn’t happily recline for book reading, television watching and monkey loving. Yeah, you might want to stay away from my sofa. Just kidding, I totally put down a sheet.
Here’s How You Make Happy Work
- Cover the Basics. Food, Water and Sleep. As much as I like to think I’ve advanced past the needs of an infant, I haven’t. Half the time when I’m a Grumpster, not to be confused with a better dressed Hipster, it’s because I’m tired, hungry or dehydrated.
- Do something nice for somebody else. Give them an unsolicited compliment, do them a favor, and more importantly, be kind. There’s a whole world of people out there. It’s good to see past ourselves.
- Get Your Workout On. Regular exercise is like magic fairy dust. When used liberally, it makes you feel good. Even Rooster, my brother’s one-eyed dog, agrees.
- Up your intake of monkey loving…with a partner you care about; obviously. I’m not talking about running around town and getting a reputation. Either way, it’s hard to be angry when you’re getting a little sumthin’, sumthin’. Know what I’m sayin’.
- Kitchen. Dance. Parties. I don’t care if you want to get emo and go the Sprockets route or bust into a country line dance, just let out some energy in a way which makes you feel good.
- Put on a pair of sassy stilettos. Get dressed up and make an effort to look good. Eventually, it will rub off and you’ll feel good too.
- Forgiveness is key. Whatever anger or resentment you’re harboring, even if it’s with yourself, let it go because it’s only holding you back.
- Work Less. This one is hands down the hardest for me. I have a tendency to step up my game by working more and occasionally the extra hours are necessary, but very quickly necessary starts to become the norm and then I turn into cranky pants, so Work Less.
- Speaking of, do more of the things which make you happy. For me, this involves the Hubby, the felines, family, friends, farmers marketing, reading, cooking, baking and blogging.
- Take Time For Yourself without feeling guilty. You deserve it.
- Get grateful. Every day, write down one thing which makes you grateful because a little appreciation will go a long way.
- Meditation. If you would have told me five years ago, I would be promulgating being Zen, I would have snorted until coffee came out my nose. What can I say? It works; I use this this app specifically.
- Focus on the positive stuff happening in your life. I can assure you it’s there somewhere. You have to be willing to look though.
For example, June took me to Utah to meet some fabulous peeps, also known as Blends (cough, cheesy ass name, cough), and I road tripped it to Detroit to see the cousins for the chillest of illest weekends. Yep, it’s like that.
Family bonding was the name of the game in July.
- August was all about my veggie loving, while September brought on the booze.
The truth of the matter is happy isn’t always easy, especially when the chips are down. You have to work for it and you have to do it on the regular too. At the end of the day though, it’s worth it.
A note: Depression is very real and involves a whole lot of scientific brain chemistry I can’t explain, other than to say you cannot simply will yourself to be happy. Talk to someone, see a physician, and get help if need be because everyone deserve some happy in their life.
Do you actively work to stay happy? What tactics do you employ?