We need to talk.
The four scariest words in a woman’s vocabulary; at least for the person on the receiving end.
I’ve got a serious topic today, born from reading a blog post which set my little bitty brain a flutter and not in a good way. The short version: it pissed me off. It made me angry for the people reading it and sorry for the person writing it. I am not going to point my spindly finger or speak badly about this person, although I do want to talk about the topic of their post. Let’s just say it struck a nerve, a rather large one at that.
The message began simply: losing weight and being healthy are not the same thing. I agree.
The post went on to suggest weight loss should be the optimum goal though. The author expressed disappointment with nutritionists and dietitians whose focus is on health instead of weight loss, and said in order to shed those pounds, you must eliminate all natural, high sugar, whole foods. Examples were given: potatoes, bananas, grapes, figs, pineapple, corn, peas, beets, winter squash, you get the idea. Once you’ve actually lost the weight, then you can worry about being healthy.
You see why this a huge problem for me, yes? To say I was livid would be an understatement.
When it comes to healthy and sustainable weight loss, the way you get there matters a great deal.
Case in point:
I could cut out all solid foods and lose weight.
I could binge and purge and lose weight.
I could pump my body full of sugar free, fat free, chemical substitutes and lose weight.
I could drink diuretics for breakfast and lunch and lose weight.
I could subsist on two meal replacements shakes a day plus dinner and lose weight.
I could exercise six hours daily, splurging on egg whites and celery sticks and lose weight.
I could pop laxatives like they’re going out of style and lose weight.
I could cut carbohydrates and eat all the bacon and lose weight.
I could consume metabolism boosting pills and lose weight. Sure, I’d fuck up my ticker in the meantime, royally too, but hey at least I’d be skinny.
My point is it’s easy to drop weight utilizing a fad diet, a quick fix or eliminating food groups. That doesn’t make it right, nor does it make the weight loss permanent.
“Congratulations, Meghan you’ve lost thirty pounds in fifteen days. Tell her what she’s won, Johnny.”
“Meghan, Meghan, Meghan have we got a sweet deal for you today. You can expect to receive a lifetime of scale watching, with food being your main enemy. In addition, you’ll experience emotional anguish, physical damage, you’ll gain those same thirty pounds back and then some, although we will happily lighten your bank account along the way. All of this comes with a side of intestinal issues and an eating disorder. Hooray. We’ll also rob you of your ability to think clearly because we’re real peaches like that, although you’d do well to stay away from stone fruits; too much sugar. Even better, we’ll tie all these delights up in a pretty package with a pink bow, purple if that’s your preference. As always, it’s been a real pleasure having you with us. I look forward to our ongoing and tumultuous relationship.”
Enough quick fixes.
Enough fad diets.
Enough whole food hating.
Enough with the bullshit already.
Switch the focus to being healthy, and the weight loss, or gain depending on your situation, will come, and in a manner which is sustainable, without doing irreparable harm to your emotional, mental and physical well being.
No questions today. Just your feedback.