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Now [Fear] This

February 2, 2017 by Meghan 36 Comments

I once worked for a boss who operated from a place of fear.

At times, he could be a really good guy. He was a father and a husband, a family man so to speak. He also had a rough upbringing, plagued with health issues and as a result, took pessimism to an extreme. The glass wasn’t half empty; it was shattered and broken beyond repair. He was a man waiting for the other shoe to drop, mainly because at one point or another, it had.

When things were going smoothly at the office, work was great. The environment was pleasant, open, and even jovial. We collaborated, we came together, and we challenged each other in a respectful fashion. We brought out the best in one another and our team. 

When something scared him though (an employee made a mistake or someone above him asked a question he couldn’t answer), his knee jerk reaction wasn’t pleasant. Suddenly this amiable person put up a wall. He refused to listen at all, much less to logic or reason and instead spewed out demands, which ultimately lead to future failures. Professionalism and potential solutions went out the window. Instead he micro managed, he berated, and he bullied, because deep down underneath it all, he was scared; scared he’d look foolish, scared he’d lose his job, scared the other shoe would drop.

As a result, morale suffered and we lost good employees. Those who remained shut down and isolated, sending creativity, collaboration and innovation out the window. Poor policies hastily put in place ended up crippling the workplace, and the company as a whole suffered.

When we allow fear to dictate our decisions, no one wins.

When we allow fear to dictate our decisions, we shoot unarmed persons of color.

When we allow fear to dictate our decisions, we shut out those who can help us build a better culture.

When we allow fear to dictate our decisions, we close our minds to creativity and innovation.

We put up walls when we should be building bridges.

We close our hearts to humanity when we should be embracing it.

We deem those less fortunate as lazy and system abusers when we should be creating a system which leads to their success.

We demand and divide when we need to listen and learn.

When we allow fear to dictate our decisions, we hurt ourselves, our country and our future.

It’s time to stop allowing our fears to weaken us and instead let our hearts lead us.

Stop allowing our fears to weaken us and instead let our hearts lead us. #Lovetrumpshate

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Thanks for letting me Think Out Loud today Ms. Amanda.

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  1. Danielle says

    February 2, 2017 at 1:19 PM

    I love this and I puffy heart love you! With pink glitter sparkling vibes.
    Totally agree. Live from a place of love. Wub sweet wub. XOXO
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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 11:53 AM

      Love you.
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  2. Sara @ Oats & Rows says

    February 2, 2017 at 1:44 PM

    YES TO THIS WHOLE THING. Thank you thank you
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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:17 PM

      You are most welcome. ๐Ÿ™‚
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  3. JIl St Ledger-Roty says

    February 2, 2017 at 2:15 PM

    Way to go Meg!!!

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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:22 PM

      Fist bump. ๐Ÿ™‚
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  4. Tara says

    February 2, 2017 at 4:36 PM

    Thanks for posting this. I go back and forth between being fired up to create change and feeling utterly depressed and defeated. But we absolutely need to keep saying these things out loud (no pun intended).

    Reply
    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:23 PM

      I understand. I feel similarly. I’m trying to distance myself a bit from the more inflammatory stuff and stick to just straight news. It’s helping a little bit.
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  5. Kate says

    February 2, 2017 at 6:27 PM

    Thank you for this, Meg.

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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:28 PM

      You are most welcome sunshine. It’s lovely to hear from you. I think about you and Krispy often.
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  6. Catherine @ A Cup of Catherine says

    February 2, 2017 at 6:46 PM

    YES. Beautifully said.
    Empathy is something we must cling to and we must stop letting fear dictate our choices.
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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:33 PM

      Yes we need to find empathy and try to walk in someone else’s shoes.
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  7. Jamie@TheMomGene says

    February 2, 2017 at 8:47 PM

    YES. Bravery means risk and our hearts have to lead us there.
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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:36 PM

      Well said.
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  8. Jen @ Chase the Red Grape says

    February 2, 2017 at 9:54 PM

    100% yes! Loved and shared.
    Lead your life guided by the love of your heart <3
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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:39 PM

      Thanks sunshine. I really appreciate the shares! It means a lot.
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  9. Pat says

    February 3, 2017 at 5:46 AM

    Thank you for writing this. It was good to pause and remember these values in the midst of all of the chaos.

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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:42 PM

      Chaos is a good word for it. Somehow we need to come together and cure this divide, and neither fear nor help are going to help.
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  10. Cora says

    February 3, 2017 at 8:45 AM

    Beautiful, strong, true… a must read for all. Thank you, Meg. These words can’t be seen or heard enough.
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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:42 PM

      Thanks Cora. I really appreciate it.
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  11. Suzy says

    February 3, 2017 at 10:29 AM

    This is probably my favourite post you’ve ever written. The Fear Vs Love topic has always been close to my heart. I read once that the opposite of love isn’t hate; it’s fear and it stuck with me. Ever since then, it’s been underlined and highlighted in so many ways. I talked to Katie about this last night really late, actually because she’s got a lot of fear in her life right now that’s controlling her. Self awareness is the first step, and then it’s time to face the music.
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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:53 PM

      Yes, I love this thought. The opposition of love is fear, which tends to lead to hate. Fear is a tough one though because we all have it to some degree. Learning how to manage our fears without letting them dictate our decisions is key. I’m rooting for you and Katie.

      Also, I’m thrilled you loved this post. Every so often, I can be serious. Who knew?
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  12. Heather Shoberg says

    February 3, 2017 at 10:32 AM

    Yes, Yes, Yes!
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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:55 PM

      Thank you. ๐Ÿ™‚
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  13. Emily says

    February 3, 2017 at 11:31 AM

    YES. LOVE and courage instead of fear. Love truly builds bridges when fear burns them down. Fear of others is always hurtful.
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    • Meghan says

      February 3, 2017 at 12:56 PM

      Well said.
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  14. Joyce @ The Hungry Caterpillar says

    February 4, 2017 at 11:22 AM

    Amen! You’re so spot on that there’s a ton of fear driving this country right now–and it’s leading us down some unfortunate paths. ๐Ÿ™
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    • Meghan says

      February 5, 2017 at 2:44 PM

      Fear can lead to some dangerous paths and we seem to be headed that way. It makes me sad.

      Reply
  15. Chelsea A says

    February 5, 2017 at 8:14 AM

    Love this Meg! <3
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    • Meghan says

      February 5, 2017 at 2:45 PM

      Thanks Chelsea.

      Reply
  16. Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table says

    February 5, 2017 at 3:36 PM

    We’ve been traveling, so I waited to read this until I could fully focus. I’m glad I did. Very well said. Let’s start helping with the bridges.
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    • Meghan says

      February 6, 2017 at 10:46 AM

      We need to build a bridge from Cleveland to San Diego so I can see you more.
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      • Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table says

        February 6, 2017 at 11:15 AM

        I’d vote for that.
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  17. Luce@FitSwissChick says

    February 6, 2017 at 7:22 AM

    This is my #vanillagorilla sister. SO much Love for you.
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    • Meghan says

      February 6, 2017 at 10:48 AM

      Pounds Chest.

      Love you too Luce.
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